Parents can improve co-parenting skills by working on the following tips:
Keep communication positive. When talking to your kids, speak positively about the other parent. Parents may be angry or resentful of their ex-spouse following a divorce or separation; however, parents need to protect their kids from feeling angry or hurt about the other parent.
Communicate directly. Do not use your child as a tool to communicate with your ex. Children should not be put in the middle or made responsible for communicating for their parents. If you are having difficulty communicating without arguing, try e-mail communication to continue communicating about your child’s needs without the concern that it will create a scene.
Leave your feelings out of it. There may be times when it is difficult to talk to your ex about your child. It is important to look past your feelings and keep the end goal in mind that it is all for your kids.
Be Consistent. Have a routine at home and be consistent with rules, expectations, and consequences. Remember that your ex may not have the same ideals or parenting skills. Try working with your ex to target some similar rules and skills, but learn to accept that you cannot control the other parent if they disagree.
Co-parenting can be difficult and frustrating for you and your children. If you are having difficulty co-parenting with your ex-spouse it can be helpful to seek outside help, such as co-parenting classes or counseling with a Licensed Professional Counselor. In addition, if you notice signs that your child is struggling with the divorce or separation over a lengthened period of time we may be a source of help to assist your child in adjusting during this difficult time.