5 Ways to Identify Domestic Violence — and Where to Find Help in Central Texas

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a time to raise our voices for survivors and learn how to recognize abuse that often hides in plain sight. Domestic violence isn’t limited to physical harm — it can be emotional, financial, and psychological. Understanding the signs, and knowing where to turn, is critical.

1. Control and Isolation: An abuser may gradually separate a person from their family, friends, and outside life. This might look like:

   - Demanding constant check-ins or location sharing.

   - Sabotaging work or school attendance.

   - Making the victim feel guilty for needing independence.

Although it can be subtle, isolation is used to weaken a person’s support system and increase dependence on an abuser. 

For help: Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit www.thehotline.org  

2. Emotional and Verbal Abuse: Not all wounds are visible. Emotional abuse is deeply damaging and can look like:

   - Name-calling, mocking, or belittling.

   - Gaslighting: “You’re too sensitive,” “That never happened.”

   - Threats of harm or suicide if the victim leaves.

   - Blaming the victim for the abuse (“You made me do this.”)

Emotional abuse, in any and all forms, can lead to depression, anxiety, and PTSD for victims.

Professional support is available: Contact The Vine Wellness Group at 210-490-4419

3. Physical Harm or Threats: Physical abuse isn’t always about bruises — it may begin subtly and escalate. Signs include:

   - Grabbing, pushing, slapping, or restraining.

   - Blocking doorways during arguments.

   - Punching walls, throwing things.

   - Threats to hurt the victim, children, pets, or themselves.

Physical violence, regardless of severity, is a key predictor of long-term trauma and health risks.

If in immediate danger, call 911 or the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

4. Financial Abuse: Financial control limits a person’s freedom to leave and rebuild. It might involve:

   - Denying access to bank accounts or credit cards.

   - Forcing a partner to quit their job or refuse employment.

   - Controlling every dollar spent.

   - Hiding assets or refusing to contribute financially.

The Texas Advocacy Project offers free legal help and safety planning for those experiencing financial abuse. Reach out by dialing 800-374-HOPE (4673) or visit www.texasadvocacyproject.org 

5. Monitoring or Stalking: Surveillance and digital abuse are increasingly common warning signs. Examples include:

   - Checking your phone, emails, or social media without permission

   - Installing tracking apps or GPS on your devices or car

   - Showing up uninvited to work or social events

   - Making you feel like you’re constantly being watched

Stalking behaviors are serious warning signs and predictors of future violence. For local help: Contact SAFE Alliance at 512-267-SAFE (7233) or text 737-888-7233

In Central Texas, you are not alone. Organizations like SAFE Alliance and Family Crisis Center are ready 24/7 to help survivors navigate the path to safety.

This Domestic Violence Awareness Month, remember: abuse thrives in silence. Learn the signs, speak up when it’s safe to do so, and help build a community where survivors are seen, believed, and supported.